Dear readers,
i wanna share something-or someone that really matters to me,Tony. i usually call him toniiiiii (with long "i") or syg (indonesian for baby or honey) or lemotubbies (our internal jokes) or mumu (this one actually a nickname he created himself for long time ago and everybody is like calling him mumu also,i dont know wth is that but it sounds funny and cute so i like it yeah :D ). Tony is my 'boyfriend' (a very common labels to use) but i sorta feel like we are bestfriends (forever) that shares a romantic feelings with each other but still act like a friend (well,most of the time ;p) except the fact when im act like a spoiled crazy baby (i only DO this kinda thing to special person) this is like the rare attitude you guys find it in me,lols. you can ask him, well he still surprised sometime cos we havent used to do it to each other but he said he likes to hear my babytalk (YAY!) and i havent finish, HE ALSO like to do it and its so friggin cuteeeeeeeeeee and like sweet to the max!!! cos everybody who knows tony will never ever imagine tony speaks words to me in the same way like he does to others. (omg he is so cute i wanna die sometime) hahaha
okay so far you guys think that oh we are the sweetest couple blah blah ...but please do read this post till the end then i hope you guys will feel what i feel and understand.
me and tony used to be friends with each other for about 10 years until LAST weeks or less than a month ago we finally declare that we want to take this friendship to the next level : romance, weehee :D (YEAH i know we just start to date not so long ago but we both (everytime i say "we" means he admitted to me before and agrees) feel like we already know each other for so long and what matters is how we feel towards each other not the amount of time we spend dating each other.
FLASHBACKING--------
i met him at the 1st junior high school (in indonesian called SMP), he was the new kid, and i was like already in that school for my whole life (kindergarden-highschool,imagine how long that is). being the new kid might be hard for him cos he didnt know anybody and hes quite, like REALLY possess natural quitely or silent attitude or watver i dnt knw how to explain,lol
but turned out that we were in the same gang, consist of 8 people, 7 BOYS and 1 girl (yeah,thats me), i have been always make friends with boys cos i find theyre fun, unsensitive like girls, their can throw and accept sarcastic,mean,bad jokes unlike girls who i feel scared to joke around with sometime (what happen if they cry hearing me telling mean jokes lol) so yeah. and my class is 1C and its the WORST class for teacher but the BEST class for students. we all like really bad crazy students who playsss inside of the class DURING the tutors and seems like all the teachers were already gave up on us. lolssssssss
we run inside the classroom,shouting to each other,laughhhhhhhhhhhh all the time, eat, never doing any assigngments,all the bad things you can possibly do in your early puberty ages (BLAME THE HORMONES,YEAH!)
so in this phase theres no "youre girl youre not fun" or "you are a boy you can hang with me cos ure rude" . NOOOOOOOOOOO . they ALL treated me like i have PENIS just like them, i was one of the boys, and im okay with that cos were having so much fun.
all this fun ENDED when reality hits us : FINAL TEST to 2nd junior high. DANG!!!!
from 8 of us, 4 of us made it to the 2nd jun high, while the other 4 failed the test. (and tony is in the failed group) boooooo :"""(
okay .. time to move on... we separated our way... and grew apart. its not like we didnt talk, we talk also but you know, things went different, different way for all of us and we cant blame each other for that.
not until in the 3rd jun high i started to grow some feelings for tony, and i actually dont remember HOW? or WHY? but the feelings were like blooms like MAD like crazy hahaha me myself was like cant describe on how. (noted that in 2nd jun high i dated of one the 8 boys and didnt work out, and also grow feelings for someone) but you know its like you can like A B C D but you will always have this one feeling for someone. and at that moment it was him, tony.
i love the way he plays basketball, i love the way he so quite (seems cool at that time, omg !) and i love the way he WALKS which is he thinks im WEIRD for this one (i finally told him like days ago on the phone and we were laughing so loud cos he thinks im so retarded that i put details on his WALK and actually enjoy watching it) i know im retarded but what should i do, we did STUPID EMBARASSING THINGS when we were young right????? can i get a YES please? lol
okay to make it worst on valentines day .... (okay this is the most embarassing thing like ever!) i sent him a package of chocolate and teddy TO HIS HOUSE deliver by MYSELF (with my driver at that time) . CAN SOMEONE TELL ME WHY I DID THAT????????????????? and you know what, after YEARS i tell him this thing he was like WHAT? NO WAY. (YEAH THE GUY FORGOT THERE WERE SOMEONE ACTUALLY DELIVERED A SO CALLED VALENTINE GIFT TO HIM) fuck!!!!!!!! hahahah and you know what he actually REPLY MY VALENTINE GIFT, HE BOUGHT A HEART SHAPED CHOCOLATE which i kept like forever (haha not forever lah,but for long time) AND HE ALSO FORGOT IT. grrrrrrawwwwww , lucky i have some friends that admits theyre remember all this details and convince me im not fantasizing about these stuffs, im still on the ground man, come on! im not crazy ok !!
so we never dated in those school times, he always with a girl, change by times, and my feelings were forever stays there like i cant get over him (eventho i dated someone else) so yeah , me will always have this feelings for tony. but as time goes by i realised its actually just a obessesion based on a stupid curiousity feeling for someone. i can finally admit that im over him, well ... im HEALED. but still everytime i see him i dont know how to act. like arghhhhhhhhh . ok
so for the past one year ive been friends again with him.. and his gf (at that time) and with the others and we were like meet each other everyday, like hangin outs, doing things, having our time. i dont have any feelings for tony, not in million years i imagine that i will be in my position right now cos at that time we are BESTFRIEND. thats it, and we will forever be like that. his gf is a good friend of mine, theyve been dating like AGES. like when you mention tony you can possibly related him to her. like they are the dream couple and i personally believe that. im being the bestfriend, im still the old me, who hangs with boys,jokes like ones and never crossed in my mind to do things that can harm their relationship. i love them.
not until something bad happened to tony and that thing affects their relationship and me(with others) in the middle of their relationship were trying so hard not to involve cos we think its none of our business. its hard when u are a friend to both of them and when something happened, their both tell you and ask you for your advice, believe me,its hard. i was trying to be neutral, i told the girl what i think she shud do,but NOT like force her to do, i was just give advice that can comfort her and suggest actions that can make the situation better not worst. and for him, cos i know its HARD to be in his position, i try to be the 'bestfriend" by listening to him, cos theres nothing i can do other that to listen to all his probs,mumbles,tears,stories at those times. i was just trying to be nice, but me myself i also have problems, i have boyfriend problems, i also busy with my last thesis in order to graduated, im busy with someone that i actually care so much but kinda like took me for granted, I WAS BUSY! but what shud i do if someone sorta like begs you to listen to their problems? are you human enough to refuse? to say that ure busy? to say that ure sleepy or u need some sleep? i cant do that. so what im doing is trying to listen to him, eventho sometimes im tired and i want to sleep and he insisted me to stay awake (it was like 4am in the morn) . sometimes if i cant stand it i told him that im so sleepy but sometimes i was just like keep talking.
day by day...... i enjoy his companion, and he feels the same way towards me. remember that in this phase we still talk like friends. LIKE LITERALLY BOY TO BOY (sometime). all the bad dirty words come out as we speak.
until the day that i decided to move here to singapore.... cos i got the opportunity and seems stupid if i refused it ... and he said that he feel sad to know that i moved... and he told me that he cried. i was like touched by it cos it means that he values our friendship and i finally told him that eventho im here doesnt meant that we stop talk to each other. and yeah things were back to normal..
..............to part 2.............................